Posts Tagged ‘Breastfeeding’
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There is a lot of pressure on us as women and as mothers in particular. High expectations of looking a certain way, eating a certain way, being on top of everything while being pillars of support are placed on us every single day.
I think this is part of why it’s so easy to get both defensive and judgmental when it comes to parenting.
Particularly as new mothers, we are barraged with information and criticism from every corner, all while trying to figure out this totally new role of parenting on less sleep than we’ve ever gotten in our lives. Not. Easy.
Among the topics that come up for the most controversy, you could hardly pick a more prevalent one than breastfeeding. And the pressure here is multiplied tenfold – you’re constantly told it’s best for your baby while at the same time stumbling through minefields of ‘booby traps’ or obstacles to breastfeeding.
I traveled through that minefield and crashed and burned. Lack of support, misinformation, pain and agony and more – the reasons I gave up on breastfeeding were many – and sneaking in right along with them were feelings of inadequacy. I wasn’t healthy enough. I didn’t eat well enough. I was too fat.
I wasn’t a good enough mother to do the best for my baby. Read the rest of this entry »
This week is world breastfeeding week, and I am so thrilled today to be guest posting at the Natural Parents Network – a very near and dear to my heart post that is co-written with fellow blogger, Krista of Think Mama, Think.
Krista came to me with the idea of writing a post together when she came across my own breastfeeding experiences on my blog and realized how incredibly similar they were to her’s. She wanted to explore together why our stories ended so differently – in hopes of helping other moms – and I was very happy to do so.
I wasn’t able to make breastfeeding work for me, but it is continually my hope that my story will help other moms move forward where I did not.
I’ve also become very determined to make it happen next time around!
I wrote 2 posts a few months back that I entitled ‘My Breastfeeding Mistakes’ Part 1 & Part 2. They were areas where I could see, with the benefit of hindsight and the perspective of several months, where I had ‘gone wrong’.
A commenter gently corrected me on calling them ‘mistakes’, and I am happy to quote Justine’s comment here as she is so right on, and this is the message I hope gets passed on: Read the rest of this entry »
Hmm…did I get your attention with that headline?
Now that I have it, just wanted to say that most people don’t call them nudist colonies anymore – you will probably find them named as ‘naturist‘ parks or communities.
Either way, the idea is still the same - it’s a park or beach or some kinda place where everyone is in the nude.
And I would like to visit one someday – to plan a camping trip or even a day trip. I’ve mentioned it to my husband more than once and he just shakes his head, but I’m serious!
Here’s the thing:
I would LOVE to be that comfortable with my body.
It’s something I think about often – how incredibly uncomfortable we are in our skins. Read the rest of this entry »
Saturday I was at the home of relatives expecting their first baby very soon. They’ve been renovating an amazing old house for close to 5 years now (and doing an incredible job!) but with their own little bean on the way, things are shifting into high gear and they organized a work party to get some things taken care of.
So the husband and Bean had a daddy daughter bonding day and I did some painting!
It was a fun little switch, and it sounds weird but I feel so cool to have taken part in ‘flipping’ a house – small part though it was.
Mother’s Day dawned gorgeously – finally a day that was truly sunny and warm!
Husband made me breakfast (bacon and eggs – yum!) and then we went for a long walk to work off breakfast. When we got home Bean was ready for a nap and we noticed exactly how many weeds had sprung up in our little front yard garden over the past week, so we did a little yard work and made it all pretty.
I then got inspired and decided to mow the lawn, so the front and back yards actually look presentable for once (we moved here last summer when I was pregnant and I could count on my hand the number of times we got the lawn taken care of…I’m sure our neighbors will be happier this year lol).
I also got started on my straw bale garden! I probably should have begun before now, but life intervenes… Read the rest of this entry »
What a week!
Can I have another weekend please?
In spite of being tired (and still quite full), I feel almost ready for a new week to begin – just need a quick recap of the weekend first!
Bean came down with a bit of a cold and was miserable Friday night, so Saturday night we added some eucalyptus and lavender essential oil to the humidifier and it seemed to help quite a bit…she’s almost back to her normal self today (though we are still getting more nighttime wakeups than usual…poor Bean!). I was very thankful to mamas on Facebook for their helpful advice, though I DO have a bit of a beef to share!
Here’s the thing – I posed the exact same question on two pages (essentially: Bean has cold; natural remedies; how much oil should I put in the humidifier). On one page (an AP/natural parenting page that allows fans to post questions and get advice from other fans), I specifically stated that breastfeeding was not an option for us – I knew that if I didn’t, the answers would probably be filled with bf’ing remedies (not that I have anything at all against that – it just wasn’t something that was going to be helpful to me!). Read the rest of this entry »
In any case, it was totally worth it – I now have a pan of Black Bean Brownies, another of Nourishing Bread Pudding, and a loaf of 100% Whole Wheat Honey Bread cooling on my counter…boy does my kitchen smell good!
I wanted to share my adapted version of this Black Bean Brownie recipe, and also join in with Authentic Parenting for my first Sunday Surf! This has been an AMAZING week for blog posts…can’t wait to share what I’ve been reading!
But first things first – the chocolate!
Black Bean Brownies:
- 1 Can Eden Organics Black Beans, drained and rinsed
- 3 eggs
- 1/2 C organic unsweetened apple sauce
- 1/4 C cocoa powder
- 1 pinch salt
- 1 t. real vanilla extract
- 3/4 C raw sugar
- 1 good glug strong coffee (I used what was leftover in the post from this morning)
- 1/4 C semi-sweet chocolate chips
Preheat oven to 350. Put all the ingredients except the chocolate chips into a food processor or blender; puree until smooth. Pour chocolate chips over the top.
Bake for about 40 minutes, until toothpick inserted into middle comes out mostly clean.
Wait for brownies to cool completely before eating (you may want to store them in the fridge).
I also just wanted to quickly share a few of my helpful baking secrets that I’ve come up with over the years. Read the rest of this entry »
Yesterday (or actually 12:01AM today ) I blogged about some of the mistakes I made in my attempts to breastfeed as a new mother.
It’s something I have been reflecting on for awhile now, both for my own personal gain and because of what I am learning now as I begin my doula certification training.
Yesterday’s post was getting pretty long, so I decided to make it into 2 parts and continue it today.
So here goes…
#5. I didn’t realize the fine line between being educated and dealing with information overload.
I did research breastfeeding before the Bean came along, but it wasn’t at the top of my list because I assumed it would just be natural. And in many ways, it is – but what I’ve come to realize is that there is no one right way.
In those early, crazy days of being a new parent, I got what seemed like conflicting advice from 2 different lactation consultants, the hospital nurses, and my midwife. They were all trying to be helpful, but they all kind of made me feel like I was doing it wrong.
There was also that whole thing with keeping a chart of how often she ate, what boob she was on, how many wet diapers she had, trying to figure out whether it was a heavy wet diaper or just a medium one, trying to remember to actually write it all down, and, oh yeah – getting no sleep whatsoever.
All of this culminated into making me feel like their were rules to follow, and I was breaking them. Read the rest of this entry »
I am an aspiring doula and midwife, and though at this point I have no idea when I will be able to make those dreams come true, I am doing what I can to start making it happen.
So this week I started in on the required reading that is part of the certification from DONA International - the first step in a long (and hopefully awesome) journey.
The first book I picked up is Breastfeeding Made Simple: 7 Natural Laws for Nursing Mothers, by Nancy Mohrbacher & Kathleen Kendall-Tackett. Boy do I wish I had read this book when I was pregnant!
As you may know, I don’t breastfeed. And while I own that decision and believe I was and am doing the best I can do for my daughter, I do wish it had worked better for me. In the light of perspective – that whole hindsight is 20/20 thing – I’ve come to realize some of the mistakes I made in my attempts.
And the reason I’m writing this is not to point fingers or justify or any of those defensive/offensive take a stand reasons, but to continue to reflect on what I’ve done, what I can do better, and how I might be able to help someone who is experiencing anything similar.
So here goes…
1. I did not take the time to rest and focus as much as I should have. Read the rest of this entry »
Well, no – according to a lot of the Attachment Parenting sites and blogs and parents out there.
But I think you can.
I’ve been meaning to post on this for awhile, and a friend’s post having to do with the subject spurred me to do it today.
I want to say first – I do enjoy and learn a lot from many of the attachment parenting sites out there – and I do believe that breast is best. But here’s what I’ve learned so far about formula feeding mums. They are:
- Too interested in climbing the career ladder to take care of their child
- Feminist (used as an insult – lol)
- Feeding their baby poison
Now, the reason I write all of this is not really to rant – but because I used to agree with it!
Before I became a mother, I was able to judge with the best of them. I never even questioned the fact the I would breastfeed. I did my research – I read in many places that it’s not something that’s easy, but I knew it would be easy for me – I mean, it’s the most natural thing in the world to do, right?
Then I had the Bean. Read the rest of this entry »