Posts Tagged ‘attachment parenting’
I am proud and honored to be volunteer with the Natural Parents Network (NPN), a community of natural-minded parents and parents-to-be where you will be informed, empowered, and inspired.
When you visit the NPN’s website you can find articles and posts about Activism, Balance, Consistent Care, Ecological Responsibility, Family Safety, Feeding With Love, Gentle Discipline, Healthy Living, Holistic Health, Natural Learning, Nurturing Touch, Parenting Philosophies, Practical Home Help, Preparing for Parenting, Responding With Sensitivity, Safe Sleep, and so much more!
The volunteers who dedicate their time and energy to make NPN the outstanding resource it is also spend countless hours informing and inspiring others on their personal blogs. To close out 2011, the NPN volunteers have come together to provide you with some valuable reading material.
Each volunteer has selected either their most viewed post of 2011 or their favorite post and shared the link here. Please take a few moments to visit each post. Our intention is to expand our reach as bloggers and informed parents and parents-to-be who are still growing as we move through our own journeys. Each volunteer has provided links to other social media sites where you can follow them as well.
We hope you enjoy reading these posts as much as we enjoyed writing them. We are always looking for new volunteers so please, contact us if you are interested. Just a few hours per month can help other mamas in a huge way! Read the rest of this entry »
Welcome to the Safe Cosleeping Blog Carnival
This post was written for inclusion in the Safe Cosleeping Blog Carnival hosted by Monkey Butt Junction . Our bloggers have written on so many different aspects of cosleeping. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
Bean is sleeping upstairs right now in the middle of our queen size bed. It’s fairly chilly in our room so she’s got a few layers on, along with a halo sleep sack we found awhile back on Babysteals that helps keep her toesies warm.
In a few hours we’ll be joining her, as we have for the past 15 months, sharing a family bed.
I never imagined what a meaningful effect bedsharing would have on our family before Bean came along. I gain so much peace of mind from having her right there next to me where I know she is OK and can respond immediately if she is not.
I know I get a lot more sleep – she’s always been one to wake relatively often during the night to eat – and I literally can hardly imagine actually getting out of bed and going to another room to feed her. Having her right there makes that part of parenting much easier!
The husband gains a lot from it – he had to return to work basically right away after she was born, while I had her most days every day for her entire first year. Sharing a bed was a way for him to maintain a very strong bond with her for more hours of the day than he might normally get. Now that I’ve returned to work, I feel the strength of that bond as well.
In many ways for me, bedsharing has become a cornerstone of the trust my daughter has for me. She knows that I will always be there for her – no matter what time of the day – especially when she is at her most vulnerable. The dark doesn’t matter because mommy and daddy are always right there next to her. There are many ways to gift one’s child with that trust – and it is a powerful and much to be desired gift for them to have. I am thankful that we have found such a way of giving it to her.
I could go on and on about the benefits we’ve found in our co-sleeping arrangement, along with the other benefits that studies have shown will last throughout her lifetime.
But what I want to touch on here is the fact that I came very close to missing out on all of this, for two reasons. Read the rest of this entry »
Welcome to the First Annual Freedom of Cloth Carnival
This post was written for inclusion in the Freedom of Cloth Carnival hosted at Natural Parents Network by Melissa of The New Mommy Files and Shannon of The Artful Mama. This year’s carnival will run from Sunday, July 3rd through Saturday, July 9th. Participants are sharing everything they know and love about cloth diapering, including how cloth has inspired them.
When I think back on how the whole ‘Becoming Crunchy’ phase of our lives began, the phrase “Inspired By Cloth” is simply an understatement.
Here’s how it went down…
Back when I was first expecting and had almost no conception of what it meant to be ‘crunchy’, AP, natural, etc., I realized towards the end of my pregnancy that I had been reading all kinds of books and resources about pregnancy, but very little about actually being a parent.
Along with that, I had this irrational fear of postpartum bleeding – for some reason, I had built it up in my head as this terrible thing (I was imagining my worst period times 10) and I was quietly searching around the web for some sort of mega-pad type solution to save me from becoming a Lady Macbeth covered in blood type figure directly after delivering.
(I know – but I was pregnant).
Anyway, my search led me first to mama cloth (cloth menstrual pads) – it was my first introduction to the idea that cloth could be used in place of something I would normally just assume to be disposable, like a pad.
And in the end, while I did find the idea intriguing, I rejected it – I didn’t really see it as worth the investment or believe that it would work.
But in that search that exposed me to mama cloth users, I came across bloggers who were talking about using cloth diapers. Read the rest of this entry »
What a weekend it has been…
The husband and I had our first date in over 9 months yesterday – we went to see X-Men in the afternoon while Bean had a visit with her grandparents.
It was a great movie and a lot of fun, though I do still think it’s going to be awhile before both of us will be OK to leave her at night, I have my eye on a fancy Mexican restaurant for when the next date does come around!
I actually did leave Bean overnight with her daddy last night - the first night I’ve ever spent away from her. I went downtown to celebrate a friend’s birthday – as both of us can’t go to such things at this point, we’ve decided to start some sort of alternating schedule and I guess you could say it was ‘my turn’.
I knew it would be a late night and I driving downtown isn’t easy for me at the best of times, so I decided to crash at my friend’s and come home early.
I must say, it’s possible that I’m just lucky and I’m certainly not taking a huge amount of credit here (especially because I know how easily it could all turn on me) but I really do think the fact that I rarely left the Bean during her first months of life has helped make her into such a secure little one - we have experienced no kind of separation anxiety thus far that I have seen.
Leaving her is certainly not something I’m going to make a regular habit of just yet, but as I will be returning to work sooner than later it’s something I feel a need for both of us to start getting used to, slowly and steadily. So far I’m happy to say it seems to be working out well!
Now I’m just hoping I won’t be eating those words lol.
With that, here’s some of my very favorite posts I’ve been reading over the past couple weeks… Read the rest of this entry »
So this morning as I was walking along, thinking about how I have to go back to work in less than 3 months , I was daydreaming about opening a home daycare.
I actually strongly considered the possibility (mainly so I could stay home with the Bean) but unfortunately when most people see giant rottweiler + small child, they don’t think, “Aww, how sweet.”
In fact, it’s usually more along the lines of, “Aren’t you afraid that dog is going to maul your child?”
Luther, of course, is highly saddened by these thoughts…as nobody seems to like him sometimes. He knows we love him though! And he is amazing with the Bean…
Anyway, I’m getting off track.
So when I imagine my likely never to exist home daycare, I think about what I would want from the perfect daycare. Thus, the following would be my ad: Read the rest of this entry »
This guest post is written by Zoie. She is the mom of three boys on earth and one girl who soars. She wiggles her toes near the San Francisco Bay and waggles her fingers at TouchstoneZ: Parenting Off the Mat.
What do I do when my partner and I are just not on the same page about parenting?
I read a lot of parenting books and parenting blogs. Gentle discipline does not come naturally to me. I have to work at it. The way I work at positive parenting is something I call the al dente approach: boil a pot of instinct with a pinch of self-trust, toss in oodles of info, then throw everything at my walls and keep what sticks. My partner’s approach to parenting is by the seat of his pants. Both approaches have enviable merits.
I often wish I were as naturally playful as he is and he trusts me to research new ideas for keeping a respectful household.
We both have our strengths and our weaknesses, which I think is of great benefit to our kids and our relationship with each other. Our differences are also our greatest source of tension. We agree with the overall vision for parenting: that everyone’s needs are important and we work together to find a way to meet those needs while keeping in mind the big picture. This is very different from permissive or neglectful parenting. We do not let the kids or ourselves do everything we want without regard to safety or comfort of ourselves or other people.
On the contrary, gentle discipline means being engaged with what the underlying needs are, rather than the surface ones. Gentle discipline is on a continuum based on the consistency of connection. So, while the kids may not get a “yes” all the time, they know they will be heard and their needs are valued. Read the rest of this entry »
I really wanted to blog yesterday in honor of Spank Out Day USA (which falls on April 30th every year) but alas life intervened. The Bean is still not feeling well and hubby had to be away most of the day, so she was my first priority.
As he’s here now to take care of her, I get the chance to set down some of my thoughts.
I also had the good fortune of being able to read through a bunch of other great posts before putting my own together, so hopefully this will be pretty inspired! (No chance to comment on them yet – it’s coming – I was reading while Bean was asleep and the keyboard sounds wake her up).
In some ways, this is a touchy subject in which I feel inhibited about expressing my feelings. I have a wonderful mother who frequently stops by to read this blog and I don’t want to hurt her in any way by what I write. I have friends who sincerely believe in the Biblical sanctioning of spanking as a form of discipline, and I don’t wish to offend in my advocacy or come across as arrogant or frustrating to anyone.
So please know that the spirit of my writing is of one who is on a learning journey, and trust that I am not calling ANYONE a bad parent or claiming to be the authority here. I’m simply sharing what I’m learning – what I am passionate about – and hopefully opening a fruitful (rather than negative or hurtful) conversation… Read the rest of this entry »
Well, no – according to a lot of the Attachment Parenting sites and blogs and parents out there.
But I think you can.
I’ve been meaning to post on this for awhile, and a friend’s post having to do with the subject spurred me to do it today.
I want to say first – I do enjoy and learn a lot from many of the attachment parenting sites out there – and I do believe that breast is best. But here’s what I’ve learned so far about formula feeding mums. They are:
- Too interested in climbing the career ladder to take care of their child
- Feminist (used as an insult – lol)
- Feeding their baby poison
Now, the reason I write all of this is not really to rant – but because I used to agree with it!
Before I became a mother, I was able to judge with the best of them. I never even questioned the fact the I would breastfeed. I did my research – I read in many places that it’s not something that’s easy, but I knew it would be easy for me – I mean, it’s the most natural thing in the world to do, right?
Then I had the Bean. Read the rest of this entry »
Kind of a funny word, first of all.
I first discovered it when I started obsessively reading parenting blogs and websites with the coming of my daughter. It’s a word that definitely has more than one definition when you apply it to people, but this is what I’ve boiled it down to for me:
An ‘Attachment’ parenting style. A healthy lifestyle. A more natural way of living.
You might also find it grouped along with words like hippie, natural, granola…all those types my husband definitely never aspired to be (but guess who’s currently heading full tilt in that direction?)
I will admit that I’ve always sort of aspired to being this type of person, but I never really managed to put in the effort.
Until now. Read the rest of this entry »