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Welcome to the first Family Size Blog Carnival!
This post was written for inclusion in the Family Size Blog Carnival hosted by Kerry at City Kids Homeschooling and Patti at Jazzy Mama. Today our participants share their decisions on family size and whether or not to grow their families. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
The reality is - I have NO idea where we will end up in the question of choosing how many children to welcome into our family.
It’s kind of funny – up until about 6 months ago, I was completely certain of the answer to this question. My husband and I agreed – we wanted 4 children, ideally around two years apart in age. We wanted to have our first child before the age of 30, which happened (just barely), and begin trying to conceive again when Bean turned one.
I know to many people that whole paragraph may sound like the craziest of crazy, but we were completely secure in our plan and knew it was what we wanted.
As I’ve thought about it more over the past months though, I don’t think this is what I want anymore. And no one is more surprised about this than me (though you’d think having been a parent for the past 18 months would have taught me by now that you kind of can’t really “plan” anything).
There are so many factors rolled into this change of mind, but I’ll try to be brief…
1 – I don’t know if I could handle any more! Read the rest of this entry »
So much of my Becoming Crunchy journey has been about learning to value the natural, normal and real over the chemical, the technological solutions, the fake.
And it’s not that I hold zero value for those things – I think we have an amazing capacity as a race to be creative and come up with discoveries and solutions to things that truly need it; our problem is that we have the tendency to move on to bigger and better while simply throwing away whatever was before.
Of course, when I say we, I mean I – it wasn’t until the past year or so that I really started finding merit in being a ‘crunchy’ type, and as always I must give the caveat that I still have a ways to go…but it seems like I’m always finding new ways to move back into valuing what is natural and real, and lately the focus has been on pregnancy and childbirth in particular as I work toward certifying through DONA International as a doula.
Over the past week I’ve had the amazing opportunity to attend a childbirth education class and a 2-day birth doula training course as part of the steps required for DONA certification.
While certification is a route that I’ve chosen toward becoming a doula, I do want to make note that not every doula is certified and that there are different organizations out there who offer certification – and that basically a piece of paper does not necessarily a doula make.
I chose the route of certification through DONA for several reasons: Read the rest of this entry »
At times I feel like this past year or so has been like the eye of the storm…and we’re about to head back into it.
But over the past week, I’ve felt a lot better about that prospect…
Essentially, I’ve been dreading the idea of going back to work in August for various reasons – it’s not what I want to be doing for the rest of my life, I hate leaving the Bean, in some ways it gives me an inferiority complex (I work in a coffee shop so I imagine people probably think I’m dumb), I wonder all along the way if we’re making the right decisions…
My dream would be to go back to school right now, but financially it’s just not possible for us. It will happen and I know that, but I am so not a patient person!
So I’ve been allowing all of it to frustrate me as the time looms ever closer.
But recently, for whatever reason, something shifted.
Maybe it’s some form of maturity (HA!) but I just realized: I have to do this. I may as well stop complaining and dreading it and just enjoy it (maybe it has something to do with all that gratitude floating around). Read the rest of this entry »
I saw this video going around on a couple of Facebook pages and decided to give it a look…
About a third of the way through the video I started tearing up; by the end tears were streaming down my face.
In thinking about why on earth this would make me so emotional, I came up with a few things… Read the rest of this entry »
I first heard of Dr. Ágnes Geréb when I recently attended a conference with American midwifery advocate Ina May Gaskin in Toronto.
She referenced her friend, Dr. Geréb, who was in custody and awaiting sentence for criminal charges. Her crime?
Attending home births.
Dr. Ágnes Geréb is a Hungarian obstetrician and midwife. She is the founder of the Napvilág birthing centre and is internationally recognized as a childbirth expert. She has attended over 3,000 home births in the past 20 years, with an infant mortality rate of less than 1 in 1,000 (which is lower than many hospitals).
Dr. Geréb was voted one of Hungary’s Women of the Decade in a women’s weekly. She was one of the first doctors in Hungary to advocate for fathers being allowed in the delivery room in the 1970′s.
Dr. Geréb and other birth advocates have been trying to get home birth regulated and legalized by the Hungarian government for the past 22 years. (As it stood up until very recently, women were legally permitted to give birth at home, but medical professionals were not legally permitted to assist them there).
On October 5, 2010, Dr. Geréb was arrested by 4 armed policemen shortly after calling an ambulance for a woman who had spontaneously gone into labor during a routine prenatal checkup. Her charge at the time was “suspicion of reckless endangerment committed during the line of duty.”
The police also interrogated the other women present at the birth center, as well as the mother who had just given birth to a baby in respiratory distress (the baby was revived at the hospital).
Dr. Geréb was placed in prison on a 23 hour lock down. She was subjected to strip searches, allowed to see her family only once a month, and permitted one 10-minute phone call per week. She was taken to court in handcuffs and leg shackles, so tight that they cut into her leg. Read the rest of this entry »
I promised more from my experience with hearing Ina May Gaskin speak recently in downtown Toronto, so here it is…
I learned something that was kind of revolutionary for me this past weekend – and that is that pregnancy and birth are not inevitably something to fear.
You may have already come to that conclusion, but it was sure news to me!
When I was pregnant with my daughter I was very drawn to the idea of home birth, but didn’t even consider it as an option for my first child. My thought process was:
- I don’t have any actual idea of what birth is like.
- I want to be at the hospital just in case something goes wrong.
- If everything goes well the first time, I’ll probably go with home births for any upcoming pregnancies.
The most overwhelming feeling for me was the fear – what if something terrible happens?
I had high levels of anxiety throughout most of my pregnancy. They were feelings I generally kept to myself, but they were always there gnawing at my mind. What if I miscarry again? What if she stops moving? What if I’m not eating healthy enough? What if she is stillborn? What if I have to have a c-section? What if I don’t get any milk?
On and on and on…and that’s only a small sample!
I know it sounds super morbid, but my mind was frequently consumed with thoughts like this. And I have to wonder, where did it all come from? Read the rest of this entry »