A Tradition of Love
Welcome to the November Carnival of Natural Parenting: Kids in the Kitchen
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how kids get involved in cooking and feeding. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
Some of the memories I cherish most from childhood are those of helping my mom in the kitchen. It was mostly the occasional baking for a treat or holiday; she actually wasn’t a huge fan of cooking for the most part, but she pretty much always let us help from as early as I can remember…starting off with stirring and eventually moving up to being able to complete each task.
From that point, I was never held back from experimenting in the kitchen.
We had this crazy 70′s style plastic case full of recipe cards that had a whole section of recipes for children. I think I made almost all of them – my mom was happy to buy the ingredients and I got my little brother in on the action. Now that I think about it those were probably some hideously disgusting recipes lol – but I was so proud of myself for putting it all together!
As we grew older my brother and I took over many of the cooking duties, and I continued to learn and experiment – we even hosted a ‘French’ dinner for my parents one night in the backyard, where I made quiche for the first time – so exotic!
I kind of laugh at myself now about it all, but I really do remember the joy I had in all of those activities – especially when I figured out how to make something really great and shared it with friends.
For me, it’s a rich legacy of tradition, creativity, and family all mixed together – so of course I can’t wait to pass all of it on to my own little ones.
I’ve actually been surprised at how easy it’s been already to involve my daughter in the kitchen – she’s only 14 months after all, but I’ve already seen several ways to include her…
From the youngest age, wearing her in a wrap (and being very careful!) while preparing dinner was a way to keep her close to me while doing an act of love for my family (which cooking definitely is!).
As she started on solids around 6 months, I’ve (for the most part) been happy to let her touch her food – play with it and experience it in whatever ways she’s wanted to. I will admit – on occasion I find it annoying – mainly when I’m not in the mood for a lot of clean-up – but mostly it’s really quite fun to witness the wonder and learning on her face as she checks out each new thing.
Now that she’s toddling around, she loves to open cupboards…and of course we’re so awesome that we haven’t put any of those handy dandy lock thingies on any of them yet. What we have been able to do is designate one cupboard as her cupboard – it’s mainly full of plastic butter dishes and lids from days gone by – and with enough prodding and direction from us, it only took her a few weeks to figure out which one was hers – now she goes directly to it and has a ball pulling things out and putting them back in, or grabbing a few lids and carrying them around the house.
Of course, she still tries for the other ones on occasion, but it’s gotten much easier to direct her away from them!
Beyond that, I try to let her observe as much as possible – she loves looking into the fridge and seeing what’s cooking on the stove, and being able to have a piece of whatever I might be chopping on the counter. She’s always very proud to hold a piece of banana or cheese and likely as not mash it to bits…though a little usually does make it into her mouth.
And I’m always happy to hand her a wooden spoon to play with…I know it won’t be long before she’s ready to start stirring.
I don’t know if Bean will love to cook as much as I do, but the thing I’d most like to pass on to her is that essence – the love and joy that can be found in creating a beautiful, healthy meal for the people in your life.
It’s not just the cooking either – I hope to someday involve her in the planning, the shopping (and gardening!), setting the table, the putting away and cleaning up…I trust at least one of these aspects will be most meaningful for her and stay with her for the rest of her life.
I’m so thankful to my own mom for passing this tradition on to me, and I’d like to dedicate this post to her. Thank you mom!!
How do you involve your kids in the kitchen?
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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
- Baking & letting go — Cooking with kids can be a mess. Nadia at Red White & GREEN Mom is learning to relax, be patient, and have fun with the process.
- Family feeding in Child of Mine — Lauren at Hobo Mama reviews Ellyn Satter’s suggestions for appropriate feeding and points out where her family has problems following through.
- Children with Knives! (And other Kitchen Tools) — Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy teaches her children how to safely use knives.
- “Mommy, Can I Help?” — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment writes about how she lets her kiddos help out with cooking, despite her {sometimes} lack of patience!
- Solids the Second Time Around — Sheryl at Little Snowflakes recounts her experiences introducing solids to her second child.
- The Adventure of Toddler Tastebuds — The Accidental Natural Mama shares a few things that helped her daughter develop an adventurous palate.
- A Tradition of Love — Kelly at Becoming Crunchy looks forward to sharing the kitchen traditions passed on from her mom and has already found several ways to involve baby in the kitchen.
- The Very Best Classroom — Alicia C. at McCrenshaw’s Newest Thoughts reveals how her kitchen is more than a place to make food – it’s a classroom!
- Raising Little Chefs — Chef Mike guest posts on Natural Parents Network about how he went from a guy who couldn’t cook to a chef who wanted to teach his boys to know how the food we love is made.
- In the Kitchen with my kids — Isil at Smiling like Sunshine shares a delicious soup recipe that her kids love.
- Papa, the Pancake Artist — Papa’s making an incredible breakfast over at Our Mindful Life.
- Kids won’t eat salad? Try this one! — Tat at Mum in Search is sharing her children’s favourite salad recipe.
- Recipe For a Great Relationship — Cooking with kids is about feeding hearts as well as bellies, writes Hannah at Wild Parenting.
- The Ritual of Mealtimes — Syenna at Gently Parenting Twins writes about the significance of mealtimes in her family’s daily rhythm.
- Kid, Meet Food. Food, Kid. — Alburnet at What’s Next? panicks about passing on her food “issues” to her offspring.
- Growing Up in the Kitchen — Cassie at There’s a Pickle in My Life shares how her son is growing up in the kitchen.
- Harvesting Corn and History — From Kenna at School Garden Year: The kids in the school garden harvest their corn and learn how much history grows in their food.
- My Guiding Principles for Teaching my Child about Food — Tree at Mom Grooves uses these guiding principles to give her daughter a love of good food and an understanding of nutrition as well as to empower her to make the best choices for her body.
- Kitchen Control — Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro writes about her struggles to relinquish control in the kitchen to her children.
- Food — Emma at Your Fonder Heart lets her seven month old teach her how to feed a baby.
- Kitchen Fun? — Adrienne at Mommying My Way questions how much fun she can have in a non-functional kitchen, while trying to remain positive about the blessings of cooking for her family.
- Kitchen Adventures — Erica at ChildOrganics shares fun ways to connect with your kids in the kitchen.
- Kids in the Kitchen: Finding the Right Tools — Melissa at Vibrant Wanderings shares some of her favorite child-sized kitchen gadgets and where to find them.
- The Kitchen Classroom — Laura at Authentic Parenting knows that everything your kids want to learn is at the end of the ladle.
- Kids in the Kitchen — Luschka from Diary of a First Child talks about the role of the kitchen in family communication and shares fun kitchen activities for the under two.
- Our Kitchen is an Unschooling Classroom. — Terri at Child of the Nature Isle explores the many ways her kitchen has become a rich environment for learning.
- Montessori-Inspired Food Preparation for Preschoolers — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares lots of resources for using Montessori food preparation activities for young children in the kitchen.
- My Little Healthy Eater — Christine at African Babies Don’t Cry shares her research on what is the best first food for babies, and includes a healthy and yummy breakfast recipe.
- Two Boys and Papa in the Kitchen: Recipe for Disaster? — MudpieMama shares all about her fears, joys and discoveries when the boys and handsome hubby took over the kitchen.
- Food choices, Food treats — Henrietta at Angel Wings and Herb Tea shares her family’s relationship with food.
- learning to eat — Catherine at learner mummy reflects on little M’s first adventures with food.
- The Night My 7-Year-Old Made Dinner — Melodie at Breastfeeding Moms Unite! shares how her 7-year-old daughter surprised everyone by turning what started as an idea to play restaurant into pulling off making supper for her family.
- Cooking With a High-Needs Toddler — Sylvia at MaMammalia describes how Montessori-inspired activities and a bit of acceptance have helped her overcome hurdles in cooking while caring for a “high-needs” child.
- Kids in the Kitchen – teaching healthy food choices — Brenna at Almost All The Truth shares her belief in the importance of getting kids into the kitchen using her favorite cookbook for kids to develop healthy food choices now and hopefully into the future.
- Make Milk, Not War — Tamara at Tea for Three remembers the daily food fights as she struggled to feed a picky eater.
- teaching baby birds about good food. — Sarah at Small Bird on Fire writes about the ways in which her family chooses to gently teach their son how to make wise food decisions.
- 5 Ways to Enhance Your Baby or Young Toddler’s Relationship with Food — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama shares simple ways to give your child a healthy beginning to her lifelong relationship with food.
- Toddler at the Table: 10 Creative Solutions — Moorea at Mamalady shares tips for preventing meal-time power struggles.
- How My Child Takes Responsibility During His Mealtime… — Jenny @ I’m a full-time mummy shares how she teaches and encourages her 32 months old son on adopting good manners and responsibilities during his mealtimes…
- Kids in the Kitchen: 6 Tips Plus a Recipe — Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings shares six tips for overcoming some of the the difficulties of cooking with multiple young sous chefs, and a recipe they all can agree on!
- How BLW has made me a better parent — Zoe at Mummykins shares how baby-led weaning has changed her approach to parenting.
- My Budding Chef — Jenny at Chronicles of a Nursing Mom is no cook but is happy that her daughter has shown an inclination and manages to whip up yummy goodies for their family.
- Kids in the Kitchen: An Activity for Every Age — Gaby from Tmuffin describes how she keeps her kids busy in the kitchen, whether they are one week old or two years old.
- The Phantastically Mutlipurposed Phyllo — Ana at Pandamoly shares how Phyllo is used to create enticing dishes at home! Anything can be made into a Struedel!
- Kitchen Kids — Laura from A Pug in the Kitchen shares her children’s most favorite recipe to make, experience and eat.
- Independence vs. Connection in the Kitchen: won’t you please get yourself your own snack already? — Lisa at Organic Baby Atlanta wishes her daughter would just go make a mess in the kitchen. But her daughter only wants to do it together.
- Grandma Rose’s Kitchen — Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter reminisces about her childhood and dreams of filling her kitchen with people, love, noise, and messes.
- Healthy Food Choices for Kids — Jorje offers one way to encourage children to make their own healthy food choices at MommaJorje.com.
- Cooking food to thrive rather than survive — Phoebe at Little Tinker Tales is trying to foster a lifetime of good food habits by teaching her children about the importance of avoiding junk, cooking healthy meals, and learning about the whole food process.
- Evolution of a self-led eater — Sheila at A Gift Universe shares the story of how her son grew from nursing around the clock to eating everything in sight, without her having to push.
- 10 Ways Tiny Helps In The Kitchen — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama explores the ways in which her toddler actively participates in kitchen-related activities.
- The Complexity of Feeding a Child — Feeding children a healthy diet is no straight-forward task, but Lisa at My World Edenwild shares some general guidelines to help your child thrive.
- Lactation Cookies — That Mama Gretchen shares a fun recipe that will benefit both mamas and babies!
- 50 of the Best Books, Websites, & Resources to Inspire Kids in the Kitchen — Need inspiration to get your kids in the kitchen? Dionna at Code Name: Mama rounds up some of the best books and websites that can serve as a source for ideas, recipes, and cooking with littles fun.
- A 4-year-old’s smoothie recipe — Jen at Grow With Graces and her son set out to make a smoothie without the usual ingredients. She let him improvise. See how it turned out.
- Independent Food Preparation (My Toddler Can Do That?) — Megan at Montessori Moments shares simple ways for children to prepare their own healthy snacks.
- Follow Your Gut — Amy at Anktangle shares her philosophy about intuitive eating, and how she’s trying to foster her son’s trust in his own inner wisdom when he feels hungry.
- A TODDLER-STYLE LUNCH + RECIPE — Manic Mrs. Stone photographs how to have messy fun during lunchtime with a helpful toddler.





































Great minds Kelly!! My post is on the same theme!! (I missed the boat with getting on the code, so here's my link) http://dreamingaloudnet.blogspot.com/2011/11/tast…
Lucy your post put a HUGE grin on my face – thank you so much for sharing!
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It's fantastic that you have such wonderful memories. I remember my own mum always tired and having very little patience for messy kids in the kitchen. I often find my mum in me – after all it is much easier to do things yourself – and it is sometimes real effort for me to slow down and let them help and make mess. But I'm sure it will be an effort well worth it.
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I definitely do have that impatience too Tat – but I tell myself the same – that it will be worth it! And mostly it is…
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So sweet, Kelly! I hadn't thought of it when preparing for this carnival, but the tradition is so valuable. My own best memories with my mother and my grandmother are in the kitchen. I squealed with excitement when I found the same orange, old school version of the Betty Crocker cookbook that they both used in a thrift store. Nothing in it is vegan, and there's an updated version, but that's not the point! I love that I have the very same one!
Thanks for the reminder of this beautiful and valuable tradition. With all that in mind, I think I'll be spending a lot more time at the counter with my own little this week
Thanks Melissa!
I am totally with you on the Betty Crocker cookbook (hilarious that there is nothing Vegan in it though!)…but yes – definitely memories.
Enjoy your kitchen time with your little!
PS Can't wait to show Bean that SCOBY I'm growing…
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You know, I never really had a cabinet set aside for Kieran, but he did often get into the cabinets on his level before he started walking. I made sure that everything in those cabinets was safe – but I think with #2 I'll actually create a space for him/her to play in. Thanks so much for sharing your memories
Thanks Dionna!
We have such a small kitchen that while there's not much that could be considered unsafe in the cupboards, there is a lot I would prefer not be strewn across the floor! I was really surprised how easy it was to get her to understand having her own space was…and I think she really likes that aspect of it being 'hers' too. 
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I used to always help my grandma cook something whenever I visited – at least once a week. I love those memories and am working to pass them on to my own kids. It must be working because my oldest (acting like an old man looking back at his long life, LOL) fondly recalls memories of helping me make one thing or another.
My little guy has his own cupboard, too. He's in charge of making sure all of our canned goods are in order. Whenever we go to the store, it's his job to put the canned foods away. And he recently graduated from being the stirrer to using a knife (it's a butter knife). He is so proud to be able to cut things like mushrooms and bananas like a big guy!
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BA Ha so funny about your teen…I can totally see it!
Loved seeing the pictures of your Little Guy working in the kitchen…can't wait to see Bean following in his footsteps!
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Wow, you brought back so many memories of my own little Bean! She turned 5 in July, but at 14 months, she was much the same. These days, she is happy to make peanut butter sandwiches, set the table, get snacks for her and her brother, helps a ton in the garden and with the chickens, and is helping us to plan our move to a bigger farm. The journey was so wonderful with her, and reading this post pulled me right back through each of those years. Thank you!
Thank you for your sweet comment!
And now may I say how jealous of you I am?? Someday…
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You remind me that my boys will be forming lifelong memories in the kitchen. I do remember always having the job of mashing potatoes from a very young age!
I love the idea of your daughter having her own cupboard, and it’s great to read how much you involve her in daily tasks.
We have had a similar approach to you, and our boys know their way around the kitchen, have access to all the cupboards, and get involved with the whole process from garden/grocery store to the dinner table. It’s nice to share our lives together like this!
Thank you Syenna!
It is amazing how much wealth of learning and memory there is in this one room…and it is so nice to share our lives through it!
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What a sweet tribute to your mom! I remember this kids' cookbook I had growing up that I loved. My favorite recipe was for a chocolate maple milkshake, which still sounds good now, actually.
My mom had this wall of antique kitchen utensils, and the one I would get down for this recipe was a hand-cranking mixer. I loved that thing! I wonder where it is…
Thanks for sharing your joy and showing how you're passing it on!
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I love how you share your experiences with your little one.I personally love cooking and it's a joy to cook and chat and share all these with loved ones. So I love including our children.xxx
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I can totally relate… I remember cooking as a child too!
Jesse also has his own cupboard
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Great post for the carnival! I'm still slowly making my way through them and getting great ideas. I love how you bring in your own memories of being in the kitchen and now look at it from the other side as the parent. I've also, very carefully, had babies in the kitchen from birth and it's natural to them to want to help out. I'm trying to let go and allow them to really get involved and so far we haven't had any burns or cuts bad enough to dampen their enthusiasm. Plus, it's my secret to getting them to eat. They will eat anything they prepare! So, I put them in charge of salads and vegetable prepping. *cue maniacal parent laugh*
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We do the same things in my house and this is how I was raised. Love this article. Very well written. We do a country theme fairly often with a little passport and music from there and talk about the particular country and everything. We also make sure to take the kids to see where their food comes from and talk about it as we handle that food later. I'd love to share with you my article about raising adventurous eaters, I bet you would love it and probably agree with everything on it.