Welcome to the First Mindful Mama Carnival
This post was written for inclusion in the Mindful Mama Blog Carnival hosted by Zoie at TouchstoneZ. Participants are writing posts about what mindful practices mean to them, how they parent mindfully, obstacles to mindful practice and experiences along the way. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
I’ve been thinking about what I might write for this and finding it difficult. In most ways, I feel that I am not what you would call a Mindful Mama!
I’ve always had trouble with practicing anything like meditation, focusing on my breathing or a mantra…I get bored or distracted or just want to do something else – the ideas sound really good to me, but I’ve never been able to make any sort of long term commitment to them!
On the other hand, I think I need to do something. I become angry too easily; I get stressed to easily. I find sleep difficult at the best of times and need something beyond zoning out in a book or online to recharge.
Swimming is one place that I really find I am able to focus – particularly on breath – but when there are other (frequently annoying) people there with me in the lane, I get thrown off pretty easily.
Walking is another place that lets me just ‘BE’ – absorbing the beauty of nature and drinking it all in – it helps me feel at peace. But again, I usually have distractions – wearing the Bean, making sure neither of us are getting too much sun or bug bites, trying to control the dog.
I’m all too open to having my attention drawn away.
Over the past days, when I’ve been doing a quiet activity like putting Bean down for a nap or bedtime (a process that can often become frustrating for me if it takes a really long time), I’ve been trying to let go – visualize an ocean or forest; think of a song that makes me feel peaceful.
It has helped somewhat – both in keeping me from being frustrated, and probably in getting her to sleep! I’m sure she knows when I’m tense and want to get out of there…
The blog is definitely another place where I feel I can reflect – getting my words and thoughts out – and not just in a journal style, only for my eyes type way, but having that feedback from others…it certainly assists in giving me perspective. But it also limits me – there are things I feel constricted about writing – whether it’s because my family will see them or it’s just too personal.
I do pray often – kind of an ongoing conversation in my head, but it’s rarely something I sit down on purpose to do.
All in all…I don’t really know what the best thing would be to do to become more mindful. I’m not sure where to start, or what the best practice would be for me (as someone who has a hard time focusing when I don’t have words in front of me!). I don’t have a great understanding of what it means to meditate or to have a philosophical practice, and I’m not sure I would even know where to begin looking into it.
So, I’m definitely looking forward to reading the other posts in this carnival, and would love feedback from any of the truly Mindful Mamas out there – I’m open to your suggestions! Yes, I’m shamelessly asking for advice.
Do you have a regular practice in your life that helps you to bring in some kind of connectedness or peace?
Visit TouchstoneZ to find out how you can participate in the next Mindful Mama Blog Carnival!
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
- The Lost Art of Chill One Rich Mother explains how she overcame her habit of screaming through mindfulness
- Mindful Running Jenn @ Monkey Butt Junction shares how running has become her meditation.
- Mindful Mama…Who, Me? Kelly at Becoming Crunchy talks about why it’s difficult for her to be a Mindful Mama.
- Ritual of Affirmations Patti @ Jazzy Mama finds out that a simple evening ritual can take on new importance when it is done with thoughtfulness and intent.
- My Mindfulness Challenge Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro has set forth a mindfulness challenge for herself in an effort to become a better person.
- Keeping My Sanity by Losing My Mind CJ at Imperfect Happiness describes how she connects with reality by disconnecting from her mind.
- The New Mommy Files: Memories, Milestones, and Missteps Melissa at The New Mommy Files has found that motherhood demands mindfulness, so she’s working toward becoming a more mindful mama.
- Perfect and Complete, Lacking Nothing Rachael at The Variegated Life finds more time in the practice of being now.
- On Mindfulness and Multitasking Terri at Child of the Nature Isle reflects on how her mindful practices have changed since having children and how multitasking has been the key to maintaining a balanced life.
- I’ll Have What She’s Having Zoie at TouchstoneZ shares how she learned to trust in the “YES!”