Why I Chose Baby Led Weaning: 4 Personal Reasons
This guest post is written by Rachel Crownoble. I have to share a bit of personal background here…
Rachel was my roommate in college – we’ve known each other over 11 years now, though most of it has been long distance since we graduated!
As we’ve been somewhat in and out of touch over the years, it’s been so fun for me to see the many similarities in our parenting philosophies. I now look to Rachel as a role model in more than one area, as a new parent and an aspiring doula. (I’m sure she’s blushing now!
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I asked her specifically to write this post after a comment I saw she had written on another friend’s question on Facebook on what she should start feeding her 6 month old. Most of the other answers involved different purees and rice cereals…but Rachel’s comment was along the lines of: Don’t worry about it! My kids didn’t start eating until a bit later and then they just started grabbing food off my plate.
It was one of my first introductions to Baby Led Weaning!
I’ll share more of my perspective on the whole idea in another post, but I was really excited to hear from Rachel, as she was doing this some years ago and had great success with it.
Rachel is now a certified birth doula and aspiring midwife in Southern California. Aside from this exciting work, she is mom to two beautiful girls – Abigail (Abie) and Amileah (Millie). She also blogs about her amazing experiences with birth at Doula Rachel. You can find her on Facebook as well.
Without further ado, here is her post…
It all started with what could be considered an “accident”. I thought I was being a super-duper-cool mom when I would share small tastes of everything I ate with my baby. I would give her tiny bites of my Quaker oatmeal, and let her dip her fingers in my strawberry yogurt, and hand her my apple so that she could gnaw on the core.
As a matter of fact, I thought that if I were to tell our pediatrician about my super-duper-cool generosity, he would think it was a bad idea to give her anything other than pureed baby food. But it just made sense to feed her this way. More sense than feeding her canned food with a long expiration date, or boxed cereal flakes, which she hated and spat out anyway.
I had no idea that there was a name for this type of feeding, and when I discovered that what I was doing was in essence Baby Led Weaning, or BLW, and that it was a legit way to feed your baby, my excitement and super-duper-cool generosity mounted to a whole new level!
BLW is a way to transition your baby (or more precisely, let your baby do the transitioning) from milk to solid table foods. In general, you skip the steps of serving your youngster pureed and mushy foods, and instead you serve them food straight from the table. There is no grinding or pureeing involved, just the typical cutting and small bites you would give any child.
Here are 4 personal reasons why I have found BLW to work for me:
1. I am a cheapskate (it’s cheaper):
It’s true. I can’t really claim to be frugal, but I can claim to be cheap. This means that I find $10 too high a price to pay for most shirts. (Strangely, I have no problem spending $5 a day on a premium cup of coffee from Starbucks. My priorities may be a bit skewed…)
So, if I pay 80 cents for one jar of baby food ($1.50 if I go organic), and if I buy 2-4 jars a day, this brings me to spending roughly $3.20-$6 per day on jarred baby food. There goes my daily premium cup of coffee from Starbucks.
But, by letting my baby eat off my plate, or by giving her little tiny portions of what we eat on her own plate, I save approximately $5 a day, $35 a week, $140 a month….see where I am going with this? I can almost buy my own Starbucks store with these savings!
2. I am lazy (it’s easier and a lot less hassle):
Boiling and grinding and pureeing my own baby food sounds like an ideal way to live. But, let’s face it, in the time it takes for all the smashing and freezing the little cubes of baby food, then defrosting them one or two or three at a time, and doing this 2-5 times per day…well, I am just not that motivated. I mean, it takes time, patience, and a lot of extra dirty dishes to wash, and uses counter and freezer space. I would rather spend my time doing other things, like cleaning, going to the park with my kids, or hanging out at Starbucks.
I find it less hassle and less mess to clean up if I just give my child teeny, tiny bites off of my plate, or cut up our dinner into small pieces for her to feed herself.
I tend to think that eating fresh food is better tasting, and probably more healthy, than the commercialized baby food. I used to give her a soft banana for a snack, a few of my spaghetti noodles for dinner, or even a few kernels of rice with potatoes. This is all instead of serving ground-up, year old bananas and rice and pasta out of a glass jar.
In honesty, let me tell you: I used to occasionally buy jarred baby food, just to have on hand (fruits and veggies), and I mostly used them for occasional snacks, or to stir into a bowl of oatmeal, or to bake into some cookies for my very picky preschooler.
To my wonder, there are some newer brands of baby food [i.e. Ella's, Plum, Happy Baby, Earth's Best] that serve organic puree in squeezable packets, and I have found them to be ideal for travel snacks or small side snacks. You just untwist the top, hand it to your older toddler or preschooler, and let them suck it right out of the package. You don’t even have to use a spoon. My girls love them! And so do I.
4. It just makes sense:
I can be cheap. I can be lazy. I can serve yummy and healthy food. And all the while I can still have my daily premium cup of coffee. I can be a super-duper-cool mom.








































lol Rachel – you are a super-duper-cool mom!
I must admit, when I first heard of the idea of BLW it sounded so 'out there' to me – what? No transition??
But it was people like you who helped normalize it for me, and Bean has been SO much happier since we've started doing it with her! Thank you for sharing your BLW story!
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I'm glad you like it, Kelly. Like you already know, I just started feeding my girls off my plate when they showed real signs of interest. Abie never liked baby food, so we quickly gave that up and fed her the "real stuff", and Millie only had the real stuff, aside from some baby rice, and she didn't like it, either. It just seemed "normal" to feed them this way, and I strongly suggest it to anyone and everyone!
Yay, I love BLW! It's so much more respectful of the baby too. I cringe when I see people jamming a spoon between a baby's clenched lips. It looks so mean, but I see it all the time and it's so easy to do once you're in the habit of controlling the feeding.
And I love the safety. Little Man is so good at moving food around his mouth, tucking a mouthful into his cheek so he can take a drink, and gagging out food that goes back too quickly that I know if (when) he decides to put something inappropriate in his mouth it's not as big of a deal.
So glad to hear your munchkin is enjoying it too!
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That is so true Krissy – one of the things that surprised me from reading the BLW book about how safe it is with their gag reflex – and I've definitely seen it happen with Bean!
Feeding her is actually enjoyable, and she keeps herself fairly clean when she feeds herself, as opposed to stuffing their mouth with a spoon of goop
I love BLW for all the reasons you listed above, plus it's FUN! We're doing it with our almost 7 month old. It's been hard to give up control knowing how much he's eating or not forcing him to eat (sounds awful, doesn't it?), but I keep reminding myself to relax and let him enjoy it.
Oh my goodness Tracy – I have so felt the same way!
When we first started it with Bean (around 7 1/2 months – we had actually initiated with purees and she never really liked them) she would only play with her food, and I worried that she wouldn't figure it out. Then she actually figured out so quickly how to pick it up and put it in her mouth – I was amazed! But then she wasn't really swallowing it and I was worrying again, lol. And now at 9 months she can totally swallow and knows what she's doing. She doesn't ever eat a lot and I could easily start up the worrying again, but I feel so much more confident that she knows what she needs. And it's not always easy, but I just have to trust her…
It is so fun to see your baby enjoying real food! And you know what he/she is getting. I don't see a reason to cram babies full of jarred goop if they hate it, and then be worried that they aren't eating or don't like it. I think it easier to just stick them at the table with a plate of different colors of real textures and flavors, and let 'em go! And both my girls were about 9 months when they began any interest, and by then, it seems almost useless to do all pureed foods.
Thanks for sharing, Rachel!
BLW just made sense to me and I did my best to stick with it as much as possible. But I did finally push our daughter to wean when she got down to only 1-2 nursings a day because 1) she's 28 months old and 2) nursing while pregnant is absolutely excruciating for me (but not for everyone, mind you!). So I can't say I did BLW all the way, but oh well. I'm hoping she'll be able to pick back up nursing in 4 months when the new baby gets here, but we will see how that goes.
Regina, Adam has been pushing me to wean Millie for almost a year, and I just couldn't do it. I did cut back, but still fed her at bedtimes, and even though she loves food, she loves my milk, too. I admire you for doing it so long! Way to go!
you are awesome! the first two reasons almost caused me to spit my coffee all over the screen! cheapskate and lazy!!!! you are a mama of my own heart…lol… i'm always thinking how lazy i am because i co-sleep, blw and don't force my kids to go to bed or sit in the high chair if they don't want to…lol… LOVE to hear your reasoning and wonderful info
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My girls never liked sitting in their highchair, so I ended up holding them most the time. I think this is one reason why BLW works so well for me, because they can eat from my plate or fork, or at least see me eating and learn to do it themselves. My younger daughter picked up a fork one day, and started eating from it almost perfectly, without me having to teach her. She just watched us. I was amazed! We actually got rid of the highchair and baby food grinder even though we plan on having more babies
This is a great go-to post to share with folks who are confused about this whole food gig. It will indeed be a glorious day when we are a few generations into doing this rather then being the generation who is choosing to break from the rice cereal/jarred food habit. The social programming to stick a bib on your kid and shovel something goopy into his/her mouth is really deeply ingrained. I can't wait to be the grandmother/great grandmother who gladly dispenses hugs and snuggles rather than outdated advice about rice cereal <3
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I totally agree! I can't wait to be a grandma! And I keep thinking how they fed their babies 100 something years ago…at their table, with the family! They didn't have jarred food, but they cut little bits of their carrots and potatoes and berries up, and let the baby eat with them! Now, I realize we are living in an age of convenience, and jarred food can be considered convenient to some, but I just find it a hassle and a mess. I find it more convenient to feed real food to my girls, at their timing, like our ancestors did before us.
I practiced baby led weaning with all of my children. I would have to agree with all the reasons you stated above for doing it. It WAS easier. I did not have to BUY or make my own baby food = also CHEAPer. I am frugal and hated buying special food for anyone. I figured if I made healthy food for me it would be good enough for my baby. Afterall, they were still nursing so that was optimum nutrition.
I have also found that it makes me eat healthier as well, since I am sharing with my children
I love BLW, too. And I'm so relieved it has a name. Now it can be an official parenting-style! ha!
I also do it for the same reasons. We bought some rice cereal for ds1, but I decided after reading the ingredients that I'd taste it before giving it to him. Blech! So, we tried mushing avocado and banana at 6 months and he was not interested. I got him all set up in the highchair (another waste of money) with the baby bib (ditto) and baby spoons (again) but he just kept spitting it out and signing for mama milk. It felt wrong, so we went back to blw. And then I began laughing when he was 29lbs at 12months and people were asking if I was worried he wasn't getting enough to eat… ds2 and ds3 have a mom much more at ease with letting them do their thing with food at their own pace.
Also, I think it really helps them not to be as picky later because they're in control of their experimentation with textures, temperatures, and tastes. And, it makes me more accountable for what I'm eating-or at least I have to eat junk at a more private time.
And I don't think your Starbucks habit is skewed at all, especially since I also have it
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Hooray for Starbucks lovers!!! I have given up bibs and highchairs long ago. We gave away our highchair, since our babies just sat on my lap, or in a chair of their own, and the bibs….well, we never even bought them. They are cute and all, but hard to take off when messy and just a pain in the b*tt. Plus, less money on bibs, more money for coffee