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Weekend Update & a Sunday Surf


The Ham I Baked Today - 1950's Style Awesomeness

The Ham I Baked Today - 1950's Style Awesomeness

What a week!

Earth week, mama cloth reviews and a giveaway (still lots of time to enter!), an Earth Day Blog Carnival, guest posting at The Cloth Diapering Mama, The Great Cloth Diaper Change, and Easter!

Can I have another weekend please?

In spite of being tired (and still quite full), I feel almost ready for a new week to begin – just need a quick recap of the weekend first!

Bean came down with a bit of a cold and was miserable Friday night, so Saturday night we added some eucalyptus and lavender essential oil to the humidifier and it seemed to help quite a bit…she’s almost back to her normal self today (though we are still getting more nighttime wakeups than usual…poor Bean!). I was very thankful to mamas on Facebook for their helpful advice, though I DO have a bit of a beef to share!

Here’s the thing – I posed the exact same question on two pages (essentially: Bean has cold; natural remedies; how much oil should I put in the humidifier). On one page (an AP/natural parenting page that allows fans to post questions and get advice from other fans), I specifically stated that breastfeeding was not an option for us – I knew that if I didn’t, the answers would probably be filled with bf’ing remedies (not that I have anything at all against that – it just wasn’t something that was going to be helpful to me!).

I was proven in that surmise because when I posed the question on my own Facebook page, I left out the detail about breastfeeding (I kind of assumed people already knew, but it’s no biggie). Anyway, most of the answers I got back there did mention bf’ing, which is fine, because I didn’t clarify.

But TWO out of the 6 answers I got on the other page had to do with bf’ing! One person asked me if I knew someone who breastfed so I could get breastmilk and put it up my baby’s nose to help with her sniffling. Another asked me: Have you considered donor milk?? (yes, those were her double question marks).

Mamas, I’m saying all this not to complain or come down on people – I’m telling you because this honestly made me sick at heart – it made me cry – in other words, this was not supportive lactivism at its finest :p.

I would give anything to have done better with breastfeeding; to have known what I do now and pressed through the problems I had. I don’t think it’s at all fair that I should be slapped in the face with it when I’m asking for help with my daughter’s cold and clearly state that it isn’t an option.

In regards to those questions, no, I don’t know anyone who breastfeeds who lives within 100 miles of me. And I have considered donor milk and rejected the idea for various well thought out reasons. Neither of those things are anything I need to hear when I want help for my kid. The only result from that was to make me feel like a bad mother and have momentary anger with all lactivists (even though I know there are many lovely ones out there – and thank God I do!).

So please, please – if you are facing a similar situation, don’t be that person.

OK? Okay.

And now, I am stepping off my soapbox!

Daddy Changing Bean's Diaper While She Tries to Escape

Daddy Changing Bean's Diaper While She Tries to Escape

Moving on to The Great Cloth Diaper Change!

I was at the location in Toronto, hosted by Caterpillar Baby and All About Fluff. Our Bean was one of 18 babies being changed (at our location – there were many more around the world) to help set a Guinness world record for the most cloth diapers changed simultaneously.

It was quite fun to be around all those cloth diapering parents – the husband even enjoyed it more than he thought he would (I kind of had to drag him down there ;) ).

I saw a mama wearing a Beko carrier and struck up a conversation as it was one I had been considering for myself. We talked carriers, amber teething necklaces, diaper brands and more before discovering that we were fellow bloggers! :) I was talking to Kate of Little Miss Kate Designs; she’s working on redesigning her sites for her WAHM business and I had recently entered a giveaway of hers through her Facebook page; she recognized me from talking about mama cloth all last week lol.

Always fun when something like that happens! (And she gave me some great baby carrier advice).

Just think…Bean was part of setting a Guinness World Record at almost 8 months old. Not bad for a baby! :)

And with that…here comes your Sunday Surf!

  • This is it!! We’re getting close now!”…”822 am Jolene was born! Mama did awesome!!” – TFB’s Live Homebirth Blog Event from The Feminist Breeder
  • So one night when I was feeling particularly disgusted with my eating habits, I threw away all the chocolate in the house and swore off sugar.  Because I knew it was bad for me, and I knew I was addicted to it.” – Why Grain Free? from Garden Variety Mama
  • Fortunately I’ve been given permission by a friend of mine to share a shaving cream recipe she uses at home. Sal is a holistic therapist, tutor and consultant who makes aromatherapy products for her friends and family. Her shaving cream only uses 3 ingredients and you can make it in no time!” – Homemade Shaving Cream recipe from My Zero Waste (this is definitely on my list of things to make soon…basically as soon as I become non-lazy enough to actually shave. Hmm…was that TMI? ;) )
  • And it’s not that I’m more patient than the next person – because I’m really not – it’s just that I made a decision a long time ago… I decided that some things mattered, and some things did not. Shoes in water do not matter. Spilled milk does not matter. Broken cameras do. not. matter.
    My kids matter.
    My relationships with my kids matter.” – Why I Don’t Cry (or Yell) Over Spilled Milk from The Path Less Taken

I also read a bunch of GREAT posts from the Earth Day Blog Carnival hosted by Child of the Nature Isle and Monkey Butt Junction – so inspiring – do check them out at the bottom of my Mama Cloth Giveaway post when you head on over to enter. ;)

I was going to post the recipe for my ham pictured above (it really was amazing if I do say so myself!) but I think I’ll be saving that for another day (after all, Monday is almost here!).

Be blessed today – I hope it’s a wonderful week for you!

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8 Responses to “Weekend Update & a Sunday Surf”

  • I could have totally written the very first part of this post! I have had the same experience: breast milk, breast milk, breast milk. Every time, it is just a reminder that I failed at breastfeeding. I get it: breast is best. But that ship sailed long ago, and I can't go back. I tried, but I can't do it.

    Woah, nelly…I was getting wound up there. But I totally agree with you, and I've totally had the same experience that you did. I feel your pain. As for the cold, eucalyptus in the humidifier is our go-to as well. Good choice!
    Jenn Collins @ Monke recently posted..I love the toddler brain

  • Kelly says:

    Thank you so much Jenn…you are bringing tears to my eyes again, but good ones this time. :) Sincerely appreciate your support and understanding.

  • I'm so sorry you ran into some negative lactivists. Here we just did that carnival for compassionate advocacy and that's the first thing you come up against-those who give lactivists and crunchy parenting a bad rap. I'm one lactivist who actively supports…support-unconditionally. It is important that you feel heard and accepted for your breastfeeding and formula feeding experiences.

    That is so cool you participated in the great diaper change. We thought about participating, too, but I opted for family yoga class. Way more fun than trying to get a squirmy wormy into a dipe (as your hysterical photo shows)

    I'm starring this in my reader so I can check out the links when I'm on my laptop instead of my cell. Thanks again for sharing insteresting reads, as always :)

    • Kelly says:

      Zoie I know! I thought about linking to some of the carnival posts but didn't want to get too obnoxious ;). At any rate, you were at the very top of the list in my head of supportive, loving lactivists I have the good fortune of 'knowing' – so thank you! :D

      lol…Bean is always trying to escape from her diaper. All she wants to do is move! Maybe I should start looking into that family yoga class….

  • Oh that's so sad – just when you're feeling down and all you want is support. And when you had specifically asked for what you needed too (((HUGS))). I'm so sorry you had to experience this and that it bought up rawness for you.

    I hope your Bean is feeling better now. What you might like to do is melt some beeswax and base oil then add the eucalyptus and lavender and make a balm – this would be wonderful as a chest rub if you need it again :)

    • Kelly says:

      Thank you mama…it's definitely something that can feel like it kicks you while you're down…but I do hope that people just don't understand how hurtful they're being! I definitely get what it's like to be so excited about something that it's all you want to share, but there's a time and place for it, right? Very much appreciate your kind words. :)

      Thank you for that suggestion about the chest rub – I have to get to the health food store today so I'll be picking up the ingredients for that. She's been pretty off and on over the past couple of days…I am really hoping this is not allergies! So sad when baby doesn't feel good…

  • Alicia C. says:

    I had no idea about your problems with nursing. :( I'm glad to hear that you found a good solution for her cold! I'm going to remember it and use it next time little guy gets sick. If fact, my oldest is having all kinds of problems with allergies right now and nothing else has helped – maybe we'll try it out tonight!
    Alicia C. recently posted..Potty Training Means Noticing Differences!

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